Asalaamu Alaikoum, I am a relatively new revert to Islam and converted in 2008. Late in 2009 a brother contacted me and made a marriage proposal. The brother is morrocan and came to the UK 3 years ago to settle with his cousin whom he married, his marriage to his first wife broke down and he issued her 'Talaq' as well as taking proceedings in the civil courts to absolve this marriage by UK law. This I was aware of when I agreed to have an islamic marriage with this brother.
Over the past months it has come to light that my husbands Visa was revoked in November of 2009 and that his first wife is refusing to sign their divorce papers.
We started looking into what we could do regarding the situation and discovered that a pre-requisite to having a religious wedding ceremony here in the UK if one of the partys is NOT of British origin is the need for a "certificate of approval" (COA) which has to be sought via the Home office and produced to imam (or other) prior to the religious ceremony taking place. My total dilema is that I did not know that this COA was a legal requirement and I feel that I have been led into breaking the law by both husband and imam whom was my acting wali.
I am also now questioning as to whether my islamic wedding is valid and again this is making me sick with worry. I feel like I have been completely tricked by the person I married and throughout this he has made me feel as though gaining UK citizenship and sexual gratification were his sole purposes for pursuing me for marriage.
We have yet to live with eachother as he is located in another town and has refused to move in with me and 'start afresh'...so we have literally only spent weekends with eachother since our marriage began.
This was such an important part of my life and I just feel that through my own ignorance and not thouroughly researching all this prior I have fallen foul... I did Istikarah prior and totally entered into all of this on good faith.
Please if any of you can offer any advise it really would be much appreciated...Is my Islamic wedding valid? what do I need to do to end it and what will my rights be in islamic divorce? Whats going to happen to me now I have violated UK law...and should I consult anyone about it?
Thanks in advance and again much appreciated
Over the past months it has come to light that my husbands Visa was revoked in November of 2009 and that his first wife is refusing to sign their divorce papers.
We started looking into what we could do regarding the situation and discovered that a pre-requisite to having a religious wedding ceremony here in the UK if one of the partys is NOT of British origin is the need for a "certificate of approval" (COA) which has to be sought via the Home office and produced to imam (or other) prior to the religious ceremony taking place. My total dilema is that I did not know that this COA was a legal requirement and I feel that I have been led into breaking the law by both husband and imam whom was my acting wali.
I am also now questioning as to whether my islamic wedding is valid and again this is making me sick with worry. I feel like I have been completely tricked by the person I married and throughout this he has made me feel as though gaining UK citizenship and sexual gratification were his sole purposes for pursuing me for marriage.
We have yet to live with eachother as he is located in another town and has refused to move in with me and 'start afresh'...so we have literally only spent weekends with eachother since our marriage began.
This was such an important part of my life and I just feel that through my own ignorance and not thouroughly researching all this prior I have fallen foul... I did Istikarah prior and totally entered into all of this on good faith.
Please if any of you can offer any advise it really would be much appreciated...Is my Islamic wedding valid? what do I need to do to end it and what will my rights be in islamic divorce? Whats going to happen to me now I have violated UK law...and should I consult anyone about it?
Thanks in advance and again much appreciated