I'm confused, you CAN marry them but you can't show affection and go to their churches? That makes no sense.
Brother Waseem, and all other brothers and sisters out there, the proper thing to do is not listen to this Shaikh for what ever he says, because he says two differant things, he tells his opnions, and he doesn't tell what's true by facts all the time, at times by his opinions.
IslamQA, right? *shakes head*
So everyone, even sister Dahab (by the way, don't ever say girlfriend again! I was SO scared when you said that, until I found out that you weren't a boy LoL), don't listen to what he says because he's blowing his things out of proportion TOO much, thus misleading others.
So sister, let me tell you how you can resolve your situation.
No it is not allowed for Muslims to attend Funerals or make Janazah on the Kafir and Munafiq.
One reason why I can say this is from this situation with the Sahabi:
It was before his death that our beloved Father Rasulallah (SAW)
told the names of the Hypocrites (Munafiq) to Hudaifah ibn Al Yaman, and instructed him
so that no Janazah would be made upon them.
And lighting a candle is forbidden too, because of the fact that it is a tradition and custom of what Non Muslims do, which Rasulallah (SAW) instructed us to be differant from them and not follow them in any way (and he's completed teaching how to be differant from them in many ways during his 23 years or 10 years after Establishing the new Birth of Islam), in ways such as dress, looks, eating, etc. And anyone who follows them are in a complete error.
And there ARE Muslims who do that, lighting candles, or doing some lunatic things during events like marriages, etc. but doing this (lighting a candle) is
Bid'ah, an
Innovation, an
Invention.
Mashallah Allah Ta Alla and Rasulallah (SAW) have taught us to seperate culture and religion, and to take religion to the 100%, and yeah if 100% commitment to Allah Ta Alla means being Extreme, then yes, be (that kind of) extreme, but don't take the teachings of Rasulallah (SAW) past the limits or blwoing it out of proportion, meaning just because Rasulallah (SAW) and the Salaf As Salih (RA) would spend their nights in worshipping Allah Ta Alla, that doesn't mean that you should go to the extremes with that which is by making it frequent, or basically every single day without any sleep at night, because Alhamdulillah if you want to follow the Salaf As Salih and Rasulallah (SAW), but Rasulallah (SAW) set limits on himself too, that's why he would sleep at night at times, and worship Allah Ta Alla throughout the night on other days, and that's what a Muslim brother or sister should do in this situation, by letting themselves rest and making sure that if they want to do it frequently, then they should at least take a break in this habit, which Mashallah is a good habit, but too much is trangressing out of the Sunnah of Rasulallah (SAW).
And sister Dabah, you also said that Christians beleive-
beleive in what? Beleiving means that you beleive in the Oneness of Allah Ta Alla, his Manifest, that he has no partners with him, and that you do not worship or put anyone's status next to that of his (which is stupidest thing anyone can do), and Christians DO NOT follow this. There WERE soem Muslims, or you can see it as this way, "Christains Muslims," from the Ummah of Esa (AS), who beleived that he was the Messenger of Allah Ta Alla, who preserved his teachings and the Injeel from the Haraam Shirk that those many have deviated into, and they beleived in the Oneness of Allah Ta Alla, and especially that he does not bear a son like a Human being or to father a child (which is so dumbt think, if I may say so myself), and there were many stories of those Muslims from the Ummah of Esa (AS) (May Allah Ta Alla Multiply their Status and Ajr in Jannah by the millions, Ameen!) that Rasulallah (SAW) has spoken about, one instance would be of the Companions of the Ditch (see IslamBase.Co.Uk > Lectures > Imam Anwar Al Awlaki > Companions of the Ditch), who where burnt alive because they beleived in the Oneness of Allah Ta Alla instead of worshipping and fearing the Evil and Tyrant King, and the teachers of Salman Al Farisi (RA) (who was from Persia and a former Magian) (fire worshippers) were among those who followed the teachings of Esa (AS), and who told him about the coming Rasul from Allah, which lead Salman Al Farisi (RA) to make Hijrah (emigrate) to see him.
So, it's been like roughly one hour since I've been typing all of this, but when I get the time soon Inshallah, I'll talk about what that Sheikh has said in that Fatwa so that we do not misunderstand what those teachings of Rasulallah (SAW) meant and came from.
And sister Dahab, well, I wanted to ask you a question (but that's not what I basically want to say), what were you before you entered Islam? I'm just a bit curious.
And also sister, just tell her parents that you can't attend the funeral for religious reasons, and even though it may seem rude or it might break their heart, know this, that being Dutiful to Allah Ta Alla and obediant to him even in hard times is obligatory upon us Muslims, and
Never Ever compromise Allah Ta Alla.
Well anyway, peace out sister Dahab, and I'm always here for my brothers and sisters if they need me.
