Would you...!?, Controversial

[Ferrari1981]

This is a NEW statistics boards which has been provided so please make your poll votes now and see what the majority feel about cousin marriages as this will help the outcome and understanding of what people think of this sensitive topic...

PLEASE VOTE ...

[This is a research conducted on my behalf so please be honest and dont lie just so you could defeat the whole point of this thread!]

As its a controversial topic, you have dicuss this generally or in regards to first cousins? Viote then post why you chose the above and the reasons behind it.

Islam does allow tribal marriages as it happened during the Prophet (pbuh) time but personally how would you feel marrying your own cousin you were either raised with or a distant relation?

Also your opinions on marrying inter racial families i.e. Indian, Pakistani, Bengaldeshi etc... and also marriage outside your religon... this information would be useful...

Ma'asalaama

[cpeloewetse]

Salam walaykum. I am a convert so my family members are not muslims, but if one of my cousins did convert I might consider marrying them, only because I already know them, and it would be easy in terms of marriage to trust them, and since they are family they already know how to protect me and that sort of thing. But I would kind of feel uneasy about it, because ive seen some articles that say that if you intermarry to close to your own family you children may have some genetic problems, even though it is halal.
I dont see anything wrong with interacial marriages, were all human beings afterall. I grew up in a multicultural environment and I really dont see the difference in marrying someone of the same race or of a different race. And especially since I became muslim Im really begining to see that race is really in our minds, if we all learnt to look past it, the world would be a better place.
I really would like to marry a muslim, I am open to marrying someone that would sincerely convert to Islam. I hope I answered all the questions.
:salam2:

[liaqat]

salam
this is a very good topic .
i don;t find anything wrong in marrying a cousin . totally depend's on the people .
if both are happy then it;s fine .
i know now a day's the west try and show it as incest.
but when havethe west ever shown anything positive about islam.

[lost]

I'm not muslim, but have been considering it. So I dont know how valid my opinion is. But I thought I'd give it anyway...
As an american who has grown up in a typical american way, besides that there are very few people of other races than my own where I come from, I personally think that it doesn't matter who you marry as long as you both are happy. (Although I am a little against same-sex marriage.) So yes, I think it's perfectly fine to marry your cousin, as long as you're up for the emotional challenges you might encounter while living in America and other countries where it is usually thought of as incest.

As for inter-racial marriage, to me...there is no question about whether it's right or wrong. Again, you can and should marry whoever will treat you best and make you happy. Despite his/her prior relationship to you or their race.

hope this helps...

[Andalusian]

:salam2:
nice subject.
I want just to say that for the word "race" doesn't exist in islam and also today in biology and human sciences this word was banned because it makes distinction between people.
my answer about marriage is this :
"O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allâh is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa [i.e. one of the Muttaqûn (pious - see V.2:2). Verily, Allâh is All-Knowing, All-Aware."
Sourate N°49 verse n°13
Wa Allaho A'lame

[Mabsoot]

:wasalam:

Islam encourages people to marry those who are good Muslims and have good personality and character. Race, and Tribes etc do not matter.

As for cousin marriage, Islam only states that it is allowed. That doesnt mean it is a prescribed thing or anything. Unfortunately, in some parts of the world, some cultures put extra restrictions on marriage which break Islamic rules.

wasalam.

[Muslima22]

I clicked 'no' in the poll because I don't like any of my cousins...........not because I am against ppl marrying their cousins if they both really want to. I don't think its incest and the british governement allows it and to be honest you can have lots of problems in families where the parents are not related at all. I don't think it really is dependent on that. If it was really bad then i doubt Allah would have allowed it in the first place!!

[B.H.]

As far as marriage is concerned, I oppose what Allah opposes and support what Allah allows.

[Beko29]

:salam2:

me to bro or sis B.H

:wasalam:

[B.H.]

I have read that people who marry cousins have a rather high marriage success rate. They already know each other, what they like and don't like, their own strengths and weaknesses, and have a common value bond.

I have also read that there is not as much tension between the spouse and inlaws because they are all related anyway and knew each other before hand well.

[3assal]

I think marriage is good as long as it follows what Allah has ordered for us. My only concern will be the well being of the children born to this type of marriage. There is a higher rate of abnormalities in children born to parents who are somewhat related. :( (this is why I voted no)

[Beko29]

:salam2:

Brother B.H

in Denmark where i live, the most of the Moslims familie married there kids to there cousin on force, cause they want them to Europe.:astag: and we have a lot of divorce her of that reson,Parents dont think of its haram just that they want to help AND BRING THEM TO eUROPE for a better life,(so is europe really so great?? no its not) thats why i voted no. they dont think of there owen kids fellings. but im sure if the cousins married cause of love and there on will they willl have a great marrie. thats why i say yes.

:wasalam:

[B.H.]

I understand what you are saying. It is wrong to make people marry against their will and of course it is understandable they would divorce later. I was thinking of a situation where the marriage is made freely of their own will.

[muslimaha]

aslamu alekum to all
i clicked 'no' to the question as well. speaking on my behalf i don't think it's good idea to marry your cousin and i wouldn't marry my cousin even though allah swt made it okey. it jsut my opinion...
there's nothing wrong with it if the two people are okey with the idea!!
w'salam

[rameezmahmood]

salam

i personally think it might be alrite to marry a cousin... i mean its even better because god doesn't prohibit it ... and you know the person and almost grew up with them... if u can find the connection i think its alrite :) its not like they are a sister or brother.............. that would be odd haha

[Abu.Amirah]

W/S

interesting topic.Well according to Quran in sura Annisaa aya 23,Allah clearly tells us those people whom we are not allowed to marry.

Its allowed to marry your cousin but not the parents as those will be your Aunty and Uncle.

Its true that when you marry a cousin ,like one of us said , it makes the marriage to success as you already know one another.Each one of you will know the weakness of the other....But it doesnt mean if you marry from outside your marriage will not succeed.The important thing like Mabsoot said...its important to marry by following the teaching of the Prophets (s.a.w) ...Look for someone who is God fearing and with this you will surely live a good life.

Another thing is that its good to marry outside your family as you combine 2families to be as one and people becomes to know one another and love will spread through the families.What i meant here is that the Islam will be growing faster.


Jazakallahu kheir!

[audie7476]

:salam2:

I voted "undecided" :biggrin:
If I was in a situation to marry my cousin, I would perform istikharah prayer to seek Allah's Guidance before giving my decision. I would also ask my parents to do the istikharah prayer.

[Umm Aysha]

Asalaam

I agree wit sister muslima22, i would rather not marry a cousin, especially mine... and not because I am against cousins marrying each other. Its jus the way i feel toward mine...insha-allah, allah swt ordains us all good future partners..
Allah swt knows best..

W/salaam

[Abu.Amirah]

:salam2:

I just want to add more on this issue,Please dont use "Abnormalities" as you will make people to be afraid and even break peoples heart if they want to marry the cousins.Allah (s.w) is the creator of all of us and He will give anyone of us those kinda children even if you marry someone outside your families.In my family most of us are married to the cousins and Alhamdulillah we dont have even a single abnormal child.So dont judge by the science false statements as know one knows better than Allah.
Its not a must to marry your cousin its your own will because it will be your life with him/her for a long time.So if the idea of marrying the cousin doesnt tally with your head then dont make others to feel the same it will be as if they feel its wrong to do that.
:jazaak:

[3assal]

:salam2:

I just want to add more on this issue,Please dont use "Abnormalities" as you will make people to be afraid and even break peoples heart if they want to marry the cousins.Allah (s.w) is the creator of all of us and He will give anyone of us those kinda children even if you marry someone outside your families.In my family most of us are married to the cousins and Alhamdulillah we dont have even a single abnormal child.So dont judge by the science false statements as know one knows better than Allah.
Its not a must to marry your cousin its your own will because it will be your life with him/her for a long time.So if the idea of marrying the cousin doesnt tally with your head then dont make others to feel the same it will be as if they feel its wrong to do that.
:jazaak:

:salam2:

I am sorry you think I am trying to scare other people. :astag: I was not trying to do this. In this topic, we were asked our opinion and I simply stated mine. I strongly believe this because I have seen many people who are closely related, they have a happy marriage, and some have a beautiful family and healthy children. Others, are not so fortunate, as you can see in the following link,

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/newsnight/4442010.stm

:wasalam:

3assal

[Umm Aysha]

Asalaam

What 3assal mentioned was not to scare people, but she does have a point...
My first cousins married each other and one of they two children has a deficiency and it was due to them being first cousins....but :subhanallah: he is gorgeous as eva...

Allah knows best...

W/salaam

[Late Learner]

This topic is very intersting but can we make it more interesting.
What If we will have chance to marrage with a person who embraced islam .
Mean new muslims either a sister conterted to islam or a brother converted to islam.
Practically difficult step for people but will they really go for it ?
or how many people desire to marriage to marriage with a person who is not born muslim but turned to be a muslim?

:wink:

[saima11]

:salam2:

marry a cousin? i don't know because i've never been put in that situation i am married out of the family, which is not done very often in pakistani familys.i went for a practising muslim, who would help me stay on the right path and help me bring up my children the right way[inshallah]
to think about it you just need someone practising wheather its a cousin or not, but then again this is another issue when i've seen families braking up because a marriage between two cousins didn't work out.
may allah protect us all and guide us to the right.:)

[zarah]

:bismillah:

:salam2:

Nice Topic!:bananabb2in:

I have voted as "undecided",I don`t mind marrying into a cousin,but then it all depends.

I think it all depends on the person,I think we are going to be destined to marry a cousin/out of race.

I have no objection against marrying someone out of race as long as they are muslims.

I do have some points ::biggrin:

*I would want to marry someone who has a stronger iman then me.

*Looks out for "Halal/Haram"

*ETC (I am sure everyone has some views)

Jazzak-Allah khair

:wasalam:

[Tarek]

my opionion on this is i dont like it ...somtimes many conflicts arise etc...familys getting involved ..i dont know... but never know where ur naseeb is !!

[marwah.mahmod]

SalaamuAlikumweRahmetAllahebarakatuh. I honestli cant seem to understand wat is so 'incestful' tht 2 cousins marry. I do not realli no any of my cousins nd they live in differnt countries but nevertheles i dun c y my anser wud change. If i wer to thnk bout it, if i actualil new a person realli well, like a cousin, tht they wer like a brother to me or whatever the case, then ok, obviosuli ther wud b a problem marrying THT cousin. if i felt ALL my cousins wer like my brothers, then its my personal choice to choose not to marry ne of em. If jus one cousin felt like a brother or tht it wud b too werid, then ok, they wudnt b considered. But if ther is nuthin like tht, how can it b deemed incestful? how can it jsu b catogrized tht ne cousin marrying nother cousin is RONG or negaitve? THt in itself doesnt make sense.It DOES depend on the ppl involved nd the relationship tht exisits, its not a general rule thte shud appli for all. In reagrds to arranged mariages nd inter racial mariages, in a snse i can understand y sum ppl lean towards them, in teh sense tht both partners undrestnad teh same language, the famili can as well, certain thigns r held to the same value as others nd etc. but i dun c y neone shud force ther children to marry within ther cuture or race, etc. As long as we r all muslims(InshALlah), it shudnt matter tht we r of a diff coulor or race or culture. What matters is each individuals emaan.End of story. Again, marraiges in teh same race or culture can b of an asset, but nthin of hte like shud b forced on neone. many parents dun ralize this, nd look for partners for the cihldren based on culutre etc, rather than emaan, without realizin its eapersons emaan tht will assist in the overall succes of ea membr inthe marraige, u r out to protect nd giv ure children the best tht u can to ehlp em succed in life, by the will of Allah SWT InshAllah, not jus 'protect teh culutre' . Again, its understandbale y it may be considered and may seem appealin for sum in a sense, btu then it whud b a personal choice we should all hav the rite to make. SalaamuAlikumwRahmetAllaheabrkatuh

[afnan]

first priority must be given to taquwa in marriage .anyhow my wife is my cousin too

[Speedfreak]

:salam2:
Islam does not forbid a person from marrying his\her cousin, so why should there be a debate about it? As muslims we all believe in Allah (SWT) and Nabi Muhammed (SAW), hence we also believe in what Allah (SWT) said in the Holy quran, and what was said and done by Nabi Muhammed (SAW). So what was made halal remains halal and what was made haraam remains haraam.
Thats how simple Islam is.
Inshallah Allah (SWT) make it easy for all of us (me especially) to obey his commands and follow His Beloved Nabi Muhammed (SAW). Ameen
:wasalam:

[cadette]

I clicked no, due to my personal experience.
I was married to a second cousin and when the marriage broke up it left alot of uncomfortable feeling for everyone.

However my parents are first cousins and have been happily married, Alhamdu-lillah, for 39 years. Both my sister and myself are perfactly normal.

[samiha]

Assalam.

Yes, my cousin is married to his cousin and they have mashallah a beautiful daughter.

I picked yes. It is allowed therefore if I had too, I would do it. However none of my cousins are actually practicing very well.

[Kayote]

:salam2:
Islam does not forbid a person from marrying his\her cousin, so why should there be a debate about it? As muslims we all believe in Allah (SWT) and Nabi Muhammed (SAW), hence we also believe in what Allah (SWT) said in the Holy quran, and what was said and done by Nabi Muhammed (SAW). So what was made halal remains halal and what was made haraam remains haraam.
Thats how simple Islam is.
Inshallah Allah (SWT) make it easy for all of us (me especially) to obey his commands and follow His Beloved Nabi Muhammed (SAW). Ameen
:wasalam:

Masha'Allah a very good answer.

I myself donot have a problem with it due to what Speedfreak has already said.

:wasalam:

[Destiny_Jannah]

I said no, and it depends on which cousins you are talking about. are you asking cousins from mom's side dad's side or both?

I won't marry cousins from my dad's site.. because I will never be able to get along with any of them, due difference between the way I was brough up for my parents and the way they were brough up. and I think this will be big issue for me.


I won't marry my cousins from my mom's site, again because I don't know them that much which will make bit uncomfortable.

I'm not against cousin marriage, everyone has the right to marry whoever they want, as long as the person meets their expectations.

marriage suppose to bring happiness :)

the prophet S.A.W said marry someone based on one of three, beauty, wealth, religion, and religion is the best one :)

[cadette]

On the subject of abnormailty due to getting married to a relative. I don't think Allah would have made it halaal for us if it was in anyway harmful to us. There is countless abnormal and disabled children born into families where the Husband and wife are from different families.

Think of it this way, Allah has made pork and alcohol haram (forbidden) for us because its harmful in so many ways. If getting married to a cousin was in anyway harmful for us, it wouldn't be allowed.


Just my opinion here.

[Kayote]

On the subject of abnormailty due to getting married to a relative. I don't think Allah would have made it halaal for us if it was in anyway harmful to us. There is countless abnormal and disabled children born into families where the Husband and wife are from different families.

Think of it this way, Allah has made pork and alcohol haram (forbidden) for us because its harmful in so many ways. If getting married to a cousin was in anyway harmful for us, it wouldn't be allowed.


Just my opinion here.

Actually I agree with you now. There has to be an explanation. Allah (SHW) knows best.

:wasalam:

[dna1987]

My response: NO WAY!!!

Lol.

My reason:
I know all my female cousins, and have come to the conclusion of "never". It's not that I think it's wrong/incest or anything ... well maybe on a certain level... I dunno .. I voted "no".

Salams.


EDIT: Reading some of the other posts ... it is definitely better to have a partner that is as different from you genetically as possible. The closer they are to your family, the higher the chance of them having a disability. I would go into the bio stuff, but short on time at the moment. With cousins, there is "sufficient" difference in genes to have a low chance of defective children. Very low chance infact.

At the start of the year, we did see some cases of cousins that both had defective genes and it was shown in the majority of their children......as the proffessor said, "they were very unlucky".

Hmmm, personally, I think its better marrying somebody that is genetically different from you as there is even less chance of having a common defective gene than if marrying your cousin.

[q8penpals]

My husband's sister married their cousin and as someone else said, it is horrible for her because he is controlling and verbally abusive, but her father won't let her divorce him because that is his brother's son and it would hurt the family. So she is stuck. I would worry about that.

Also, in some US states, you are allowed to marry a first cousin only if you are unable to have children (either one of you is "fixed" or you are well past childbearing age) and other states ban it altogether.

As a teacher here in the Middle East, it is not so much a problem of a person marrying their cousin and having possible disabilities, but it is the problem that their parents were cousins, their grandparents were cousins, etc. In areas with larger populations, an occassional cousin marriage (I am talking first cousins - extended cousins - 2-3 or more times removed are different) would probably not increase the chance of disabilities significantly. It is the compounding over generations. A study in Syria found several tribes that bascially every person has some form of disability directly attributed to in-marriage. When the researched the family tree, it was basically one family, intermarrying for generation after generation.

Overall, looking at MY cousins, there are none I would want to marry at all anyway, besides the fact that none of them are Muslim! LOL! That said, in my opinion, if 2 cousins are planning to marry, they should go for genetic counseling first, to make sure they are fully aware of anything they may be carrying twice (each cousin carrying the same related gene of something). Someone might argue that this would cut down on marriages or that everyone should do this then, but the fact is that relatives share genes and so the odds of both of them carrying the same defective gene are much, much greater than the general population. If after having all the facts, they still want to marry and have children, at least they will have made a complete decision.

My humble opinion,
Lana

[Wiseguy74]

Assalam O Alaikum,

I don´t see any thing wrong in marrying my cousin if she is religious, have good character.

Prophets Advice for choosing Life Partner:

For Man:

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser." (Reported by Al-Bukhari)

For Woman:

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "If someone with whose piety and character you are satisfied comes to you, then marry him. If you do not do so, there will be disorder in the earth and a great deal of evil." (Reported by At-Tirmidhi and others and classed as Hasan)

Wassalam
Brother Farooq

[Submitter]

:salam2:

Excellent advice Wiseguy74.

Although Allah has permitted one to marry their cousin and requires no "debate", I feel this is an interesting question just to gauge what people's responses are.

I think a major factor (probably the biggest factor) in whether a person would or would not is the way they've been brought up. If you've been brought up in a western country (like me) where marrying cousins is not very common in the majority of the population or is not in their culture/tradition, then I think you are more likely to say no. If, on the other hand, you grew up in somewhere like Pakistan where marriage to cousins is more common, then I think you are more likely to accept it.

I have to admit I would probably not marry any of my cousins who live here in the UK, because I've grown up with them. The interesting thing is I feel slightly different about cousins over in Pakistan. I don't know them very well as I don't get the opportunity to visit very often but I think I would be less hesitant in refusing altogether in their case. Why? Probably just because I don't know them well.

I guess for me it would just be awkward marrying someone who you know very well. But theoretically, if one day I met a cousin I had never seen before (for whatever reason) and she was religiously committed and of good character, I would have difficulty in thinking of a reason not to say yes.

:wasalam:

[muhamm4d]

I only have a problem with it when people are forced to marry their cousins, and the parents are upset if they wouldnt want to marry their cousins...

[yafash]

As far as marriage is concerned, I oppose what Allah opposes and support what Allah allows.

:salam2:
I FEEL THE SAME WAY WITH U, SINCE ISLAM ALLOWS IT, NO PROBLEM , BUT I PERSONALLY DO NOT HAVE ANY COUSINS I CAN MARRY AT THE MOMENT. MY 'CULTURAL BACKGROUND ' BELIEVES THAT IT IS INCEST(MARRIAGE) BUT ISLAMICALLY THERE SHOULD BE NO FREE MIXING BTW US SINCE THERE R HALAL 4 MARRIAGE. THIS HAS CAUSED A BIG FITNAH 4 ME, COS THEY ALWAYS WANT TO HUG AND TOUCH ME ( WHICH THEY DO NOT SEE AS WRONG), WHICH IS CLEARLY FORBIDDEN.
THEY CAN'T UNDERSTAND FOR NOW, COS MOST OF THEM R NOT MUSLIM OR R JUST NOT VERY SERIOUS WITH DEEN.
:wasalam:

[yafash]

:salam2:
I THINK I NEED TO GO AND FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THIS TOPICS, MAY BE ASALAFU-SALI SAID OR WROTE ANY THING EXPOUNDING THE TOPIC AND HOW RELATIONS BTW SUCH RELATIVES SHOULD BE KEPT.
:wasalam:

[vironchopin]

I dont see a problem at all to marry a first cousin. Except a few remarks saying it may cause some kind of genetic descripencies...wallahualam. Good or bad is not Man to decide but Almighty Allah. I would.

[allah is with me]

i dont think so, and dont want to .....i dont know

[LaLa09]

I voted no for the simple fact that i like to marry someone outside of "family" i pretty much know all of my cousins 2nd, 3rd, 4th all of them and marrying them never crossed my mind.

[Kakorot]

:wasalam:

No, I will never marry my cousins because on my dads side they are christian and on my mums side although they are Muslim, I don't have older brothers and all my life I have been calling my cousin bros 'brother', and I only see them in that way. I cannot imagine getting married to any of them.

[Muslimah16]

No offense but ugh! i would never marry my first cousin brothers.. thats just gross.. i grew up with them like they were my brothers. i know its halaal and all but a no no from me.
But far cousins i would maybe consider.

Wassalaam~

[allah is with me]

No offense but ugh! i would never marry my first cousin brothers.. thats just gross.. i grew up with them like they were my brothers. i know its halaal and all but a no no from me.
But far cousins i would maybe consider.

Wassalaam~

yes it is.. i just dont wanna marry cousins, ah ! but 2nd cousins .. i can .. i dont know, i mean dont understand

[IHearIslam]

:salam2:

BismiAllah:)

I chose *YES* but I will be honest, there a time in my life where I thought marrying a COUSINE was CRAZY but AlhamduliAllah, now I understand more and in that case I would marry a cousin as long as he is pious and practicing MUSLIM. It's Allah who said we could and I would NOT go agains Allah's law just because the society thinks it's crazy or out of question. As for the RACE issue, I personally would NOT care..like I said the ONLY thing that matters to me is the DEEN of the brother. So, I would NOT care about his race or tribe. But, I can NOT speak for my parents, they might have a different opinion of interracial marriages. Allahu A3lam though, so yea that is my opinion.
:wasalam:
Allah hafiz NOW and ALWAYS:hearts:
By the way GOOD thread

[um_mustafa]

salams brothers and sisters, I found this on Q and A islam site which is very intresting:

It is better to marry a non-relative or a relative?
Is it better or preferable for a Muslim to marry someone he is not related to rather than a relative?".


Praise be to Allaah.

A number of scholars regarded it as mustahabb for a man to marry a woman who is not related to him, and they gave a number of reasons for that:

1 – The child would have good characteristics, because he would take characteristics from his father’s side and his mother’s side.

2 – There is no guarantee that they will not separate which would lead to severing of the ties of kinship.

It says in al-Insaaf (8/16): It is mustahabb to choose a woman who is religiously committed and fertile, a virgin of good lineage who is not a relative. End quote.

It says in Mataalib Ooli al-Nuha (5/9): A non-relative, because her children will have better characteristics, and because there is no guarantee that they will not separate, which in the case of marriage to a relative would lead to severing of the ties of kinship, which we are enjoined to uphold. And it is said that non-relatives give children with better characteristics and female cousins have more patience. End quote.

Al-Nawawi said in al-Manhaaj: It is mustahabb to choose a religiously committed virgin who is of good lineage but is not a close relative.” Al-Jalaal al-Mahalli said in his Sharh: “Not a close relative” means a non-relative or a distant relative. The one who is distantly related is better than one who is not related at all. End quote from Sharh al-Mahalli ma’a Haashiyat Qalyoobi wa ‘Umayrah, 3/208.

You can see that there is no text concerning this matter, rather it is the ijtihaad of the fuqaha’ which they based on these interests, which differ from one person to another, and from one type of relationship to another. A man may decide to marry a relative so as to protect her and honour her family, or she may be religiously committed and of good character.

The basic principle is that marriage is permissible. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married Zaynab bint Jahsh who was the daughter of his paternal aunt, and he gave his daughter Zaynab in marriage to Abu’l-‘Aas who was the son of her maternal aunt, and ‘Ali married Faatimah, and he was the son of her father’s paternal uncle.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, after quoting the reasons that the fuqaha’ gave, of seeking good characteristics in the children and the fear of severing the ties of kinship:

What they said is true, but if there is someone among the relatives who is better in terms of other considerations (such as religious commitment, lineage and beauty), then that is better. In the event that they are equal in these terms, then a non-relative is better.

So if a female cousin is religiously committed and of good character, and he is in a weak position and needs kindness and support, then undoubtedly such a marriage serves a great interest. A man should pay attention to his interests in this case. There is no shar’i text concerning this matter that has to be followed, hence a person should do what he thinks is in his best interests. End quote from al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 5/123.

The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked about marrying relatives and whether that causes retardation in the children.

They replied: There are no saheeh ahaadeeth which forbid marriage to relatives. The incidence of retardation happens by the will and decree of Allaah and is not caused by marriage to relatives as is widely believed. End quote.

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 18/13

And Allaah knows best.


Islam Q&A

[IbnAhmad]

salaaam

this is an interesting one...i certainly wouldnt marry any first cousins cos it wouldnt feel right considering we grew up like brothers and sisters... :D :D

but.....

maybe if they were cousins i aint close with if you know what i mean..loool :)

wassalam

[abulzan07]

:salam2:

My answer would be NO to....I am from asian background it used to be a tradition even my parents were cousins too but now its all over.....so i would prefer to marry outsider and my favi choice would be revert because i thnk they are more dedicated than born muslims no offence born muslims bro and sis but its truth....

[Yousef83]

there is a medical reality that your kids could be gappy if you get marry with your relatives.Possiblity 40% very high.You have to check blood entente before marry