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[julime1979]

I am 26 soon to be 27, I am a single mother of two. I am currently studying to become a medical office speacialist and medical assisstant. My son's father is a born muslim and when we first met years ago he was not a practicing muslim and now he is and I am very happy for him. Now that my sons father is back with his faith He has been helping me on my journey to isalamic faith. I grew up in a God believing home but was left alone on my journey to choose the faith I wanted to belong to. At the time I chose christianity because I knew of no other religion. Being only 12 and choosing my own faith was very difficult. I have two older brothers that made fun of me for everything and I was very ashamed about my religion and myself. At that time I was not the best christian or the best of anything I was searching for answers that no one could give me. My family never really believed in much but themselves and I want a different life for my children and myself I want us to believe that there is better for us in this life than resentment (on how I was raised and how I am raising my children) and not so truthfull religion. I would like to break free from my life now and feel less selfish, and ashamed of how I have been living. I now live with my father who is like a bull, If I chose to become muslim I would be ridiculed by my family of men. I am very much afraid of what they will say or if they will not accept me or push my children and myself out of our home.I am having difficulty understanding, but am coming along. My mother recenlty passed away and I am in a very confusing and delicate state in my life, I want my children and myself to all belong to the same fatih with no ridicule or feeling of shame. I was wondering if anyone could help me further my journey and truly help me understand what the void in my life has been with religion. If anyone reads this I would appreciate any and all replies.


thank you,
julissa melendez

[AishaR]

Welcome to the site Julissa

The need to decide if you want to be a muslim & take your shahaddah. Once you have done this & prayer you feel so much better. I speak from experience! The way your family will be with you, only you know. At first mine thought I had been brainwashed & going through a stage but thankfully they now understand a little & see that I am very happy.

Be strong & remember life is a test.

Take care & good luck

Aisha

[Kayote]

:salam2:

Welcome.

I cannot help but feel that if the father to your son 'is back with his faith', should he not fulfill his duty? He is the father so he should marry you, that is if you want to marry him.

You are afraid of the male dominant character of your family & it appears are afraid that your reversion to Islam may not be handled well by the family so I would suggest you should think about marrying a muslim man. Yes, its not an immediate solution but you have to persevere. Ask Allah for help & to give you the strength to carry on the right path & also to bless you with the right & true muslim husband (as you may well have gathered, being born a muslim doesnt make one a muslim).

Do remember, you do not have to make public if you think you are not ready to tell everyone about your reversion to Islam. Take it a step at a time & have faith in Allah & ask Him for help. As long as you are true & sincere to Allah, Allah will accept your prayers Insha'Allah (if Allah wills).

And as always, if you have any questions, please ask, as we all here are of varying amount of knowledge & we are here with one purpose in mind, to help eachother & learn from eachother.

WaAliekum Assalam

[Mabsoot]

Hello, Welcome to the website, we'll do our best to help you. :) InshaAllah.

First of all i would like to ask a question:

Do you believe in Allah as the one and only God worthy of Worship and Muhammad as the last and final Messenger?

If the Answer is yes, then you are already a Muslim in your heart. :blackhijab:

To be a Muslim, you have to believe in the heart, as you may already do, and then to say it upon the tongue, and to act it out with your actions, i.e. to do your prayer and by giving charity etc.

However, These actions such as prayer, fasting etc can be learnt after you become a Muslim, in their own time, inshaAllah.

Islam is Easy:
"Allah intends for you ease, and does not want to make things difficult for you" [2:185]

What is important is that you actually take the Shahada, testimony of faith. That is to say:

AshHadu An-La Ilaha ilallah wa Ashhadu Anna Muhammadar-RasulAllah.

I bear witness there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah and i bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.

That is all there is to it, and if you fear your family, you can believe in this in secret . Allah will make it easy for you, inshaAllah. As Sister AishaR and Kayote have said, you must make decision and do the Shahada in secret, these other things can inshaAllah become better.

We must put our trust and hope completely with Allah. Nobody can harm us without his permission. We must put our obedience of Allah above that of anyone or anything else.

Islam gives you the true belief in Allah, you are able to worship and believe in him as God has intended and commanded for his creation.

Today is Eid, its the best day for you to become a Muslim, because it is a day of Muslim celebration, it will be a day you will always remember at end of every Ramadan. It will be the best decision that you will have ever made as it will also ensure a great future for your children too inshaAllah, as they will be raised as Muslim.s

Thanks take care.

[wafiya]

I felt the same way at the begining.as time went on I found out the more I learned about the deen the easier it was to say "I am muslim"now it don't effect me like it use to.My husband and I are the only muslims within a 45 mile radius.This makes it a little harder at times.do as much as you can reading and studing about the ways and you'll see it will become easier.As Sallam Wa Alaikum Sister.