Assalamu alaikom waramutulahi wabarakatu

[uk_revert]

Assalamu alaikom waramutulahi wabarakatu.

I was raised as a Christian from birth (the religion of my family), however, there were a number of things that did not make sense to me and that I had problems accepting. Through my whole life I have had Muslim friends so I did know some things, but it was only when I met the woman who is now my wife that I really started to learn about Islam. After learning for a month or so, I took the shahadah in 2005, and feel so grateful that I had the opportunity to make this most important decision.

The main difficulty that I have at the moment is how to tell my family. We are a very close family and there has never been any secrecy between us, but I don't know how best to go about telling them this.

The reason I want them to know is not simply to announce that I am a Muslim, but it is because I want to help them learn so that they will revert too. My family are people who probably know more about Islam than many others do, and they respect and have no problem with the Muslim faith.

I have the idea that it would be hard to persuade them because they are 'practising' Christians, and I would guess that they would initially be upset that I have rejected the faith that I was brought up in. I do know that I have to find a way to do this because I want to help them know the true path. I am certain that even if they decided not to revert, it would not spoil the long-term relationship that we have.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation, and does anyone have any suggestions as to the best way to proceed?

Thank you for your help.

:wasalam:

[Muhammad_A]

Does your wife wear hijab?

Rocking up to the old homestead with a woman in a headscarf might give them a clue ;)

[zarah]

:salam2:

Welcome to the family brother.:hijabi:

Brother I think that maybe once you tell your parents/family your heart will feel lighter.(:ma: bro,you can go through the threads created by other converts):hijabi:

:wasalam:

[virtualeye]

AssalaamuAlaikum,

You can start to tell them what things bad you felt about Islam for so long, then you studied Islamic books and came to know that the Islam is very much different than what many muslims are doing. Islam is perfect but Muslims are not.... (I know its difficult and you have to add a lot of sweet to it:))

Secondly, you should be prepared in mind for the worse case, i.e., they might become very angry, but with the passage of time they will hopefully become normal. And they will change their thinking about Islam if they see that you are much much better after reverting. Your actions will speak the truth, InshaAllah. Aameen.

Remember, you will not be answerable to your family but you will be answerable to Allah SWT on judgementday; so better care about that.

Thirdly, when your family opposes you, then you can make a deal with then. Povide them the following videos. Ask them that you have spent your whole life with them, so if they even give a tiny worth to that then they should watch the follwoing videos and study Islam properly:


Is Bible True Word of God? (Debate between a Muslim and a Christian Scholar)
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=4058605158253427977

Is Jesus God? (Debate between a Muslim and a Christian Scholar)
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=961180591411776337

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Mentioned by Name in the Bible.
http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=muhammad+bible+deedat+company

Islamic History of Europe (BBC Documentary) (Christians!! Please have memory longer than the last 50 or 100 years):
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=4948121296578586703

A deep Historical Perspective of Muslims (by Ben Kingsley)
http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=islam+empire+islamicvideos+-lion


Here is an enlightening video of a charismatic revert to Islam (He explains what is real Islam about):
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8888235112692728009

Qur'an and Bible in the light of science:
http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=zakir+naik+icna

Is the Qur'an God's Word?
http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=zakir+naik+quran+-bible+word+gods+part

Tell them that even if they agree or not, but they will be in a better position to decide about to agree or not after watching the videos. Convince them. Tell them that you came to know what hypocrite media was not telling you and was hiding from people.

Wassalaaam,
VE

[MOSABJA]

walaikum salam.Welcome to Islam and this now site.
I think you should tell them you are muslim .May Allah give them guidance also.

[Albint_Almuslima]

AsalamAlakum,

Welcome to TTI and most importantly welcome to ISLAM.

It’s nice to have u join this lovely community.

Insha Allah u benefit from us as we from u.

Enjoy ur stay Insha Allah,

If u have any questions or concerns please feel free to ask we are all here to help one another and to learn from one another as well.

Take Care,

[TheHumbleWun]

Asaalamalikum brother,

Welcome to the TTI, inshallah you will find this site beneficial. I kindly advice you to watch the videos, they show some of the struggles of other reverts, including with their family. Inshallah they will help you, or perhaps some brothers/sisters can give you more thorough advices, beacuse I am not a revert but born Muslim-alhamdillilah

Every Muslim in this life is faced with a test. You can not avoid it, have patience and put your faith in Allah and rest assure that everything happens for a reason, the good and the bad.

And Allah Knows Best

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If you were to trust in Allah genuinely, He would give you provision as He does for the birds which go out hungry in the morning and come back full in the evening. (at-Tirmidhi)

[uk_revert]

Thank you all for the replies, and sorry for my delayed response; we have been visiting my wife's family and haven't had much time to use the internet. Your suggestions have been useful and I will look at the videos soon.

:wasalam: